{"id":2195,"date":"2016-01-04T18:02:25","date_gmt":"2016-01-04T18:02:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/justynaniebieszczanska.com\/?p=2195"},"modified":"2016-01-11T09:07:23","modified_gmt":"2016-01-11T09:07:23","slug":"2195-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/justynaniebieszczanska.com\/en\/2195-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Communication – how to ask in order to get it"},"content":{"rendered":"

You have a dream. But you have no money and what do you do? Do you postpone your dream? Do you give up? It is enough to use the power of communication and ask.<\/p>\n

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A story of Tinker, so what\u2019s happened on Facebook<\/strong><\/h3>\n

A beautiful house Tinker was a dream at least for one person. Bur Dominika, as most of us, prolonged her dream for future. It happens often, doesn\u2019t it? Quite often we are ready mentally , but we cannot afford it as we think.<\/p>\n

Dominika did something that most people don\u2019t do \u2013 she created a Facebook event and this way she asked her friends to support her in making her dream come true. She asked clearly about money \u2013 10 zloty (or whatever you want) and to make her dream come true and get a special present on her birthday. I asked Dominika Jasi\u0144ska ( who is a coach uses NVC) why she had decided to do this:<\/p>\n

I trust people around \u2013 I knew that they\u2019d support me. By the way I had an opportunity to meet some beliefs. Firstly, that we can afford something if we earn for it. Than dreams must be prolonged. That it\u2019s impolite to ask about something, especially money. That it is not fine to ask about money for pleasure. And some more. But deeply in my heart I knew that people, my friends, would follow that truly speaking I fight against my fear and shame.<\/p>\n

Dominika Jasi\u0144ska<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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Ask and you get it \u2013 is it so simple?<\/strong><\/h3>\n

It appears that asking is for most of us a great challenge. It\u2019s leaving the comfort zone which we leave with much effort and some of us even never leave it. There are stereotypes and prejudies, e.g it is not good to ask and talking about money should be avoided. I asked Dominika if we have problems and blokades connected with asking:<\/p>\n

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Yes, we have and they appeared in messages which I received from these people who supported me and those who didn\u2019t, because such people also were there. Asking is a kind of exhibitionism, showing your sensibility, weakness and sensitivity. Here we can be hurt easily, especially when somebody\u2019s opinion is negative. Even the thought of it is terrible.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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How to ask? Honestly!<\/strong><\/h3>\n

When we overcome blocades and leave the comfort zone; when we are familiar with a possibility of hearing \u2018no\u2019 , whar next? Then we are close to the make dream come true (big deal!) and jus this moment we are ready for a great event in life which is asking for support:<\/p>\n